Making Friends in a New Country (When You’re Shy & Your English Isn’t Perfect)

That confident expat who seems to collect friends like souvenirs? They're probably faking it. Here's the reality:

🌎 The Friendship Paradox:

• Locals assume you already have friends
• Other immigrants are often as nervous as you
• Your "resting face" in a new language might look unfriendly (even when you're just concentrating)

Good news: A few strategic moves overcome all this.

The Shy Person's Friendship Blueprint

1. The 3-Second Rule (Easier Than Small Talk)

• See someone alone at a café/event? Smile for 3 seconds → 90% will respond
• Script: "Mind if I join? I'm new here and..." (works in libraries, coworking spaces, even laundromats)

2. The "Language Exchange" Loophole

• Apps like Tandem/HelloTalk attract locals wanting to practice your native language
• Bonus: They're patient with your English and teach you slang

3. The Hobby Hack

• Join groups doing activities (hiking, painting) where talking is optional at first
• Pro Tip: Volunteer - shared purpose builds bonds faster than chit-chat

What Locals Wish You Knew About Friendship

Key Insight: In most English-speaking countries, "Let's hang out sometime" isn't a firm plan. Follow up!

Vocabulary Builder (B1/B2 Level)

1. Loophole (n.) – An easier alternative way
   Example: "Language exchanges are a loophole for making bilingual friends."
2. Self-deprecating (adj.) – Making fun of yourself modestly
   Example: "British humor often uses self-deprecating jokes."
3. Chit-chat (n.) – Light informal conversation
   Example: "Don't stress over chit-chat - focus on shared interests."
4. Resting face (n.) – Natural expression when not smiling
   Example: "My resting face looks angry when I'm just thinking."
5. Follow up (v.) – To take the next step
   Example: "If someone says 'Let's meet,' always follow up with a date."

Activity: Use 3 vocabulary words to write a tip for shy networkers.